Each story has a minimum of three or 4 sides, with various accounts and variations.
As Somaly Mam tries to rebuild her basis in Cambodia, it’s time to pay attention to a different voice, that of her ex-husband, Pierre Legros. He was the cofounder of Appearing for Girls in Distressing Conditions (AFESIP) in 1996 and the previous director of AFESIP Worldwide.
Mam and Legros had been collectively for 15 years, 13 of them legally married. In accordance with Legros, “I am the one particular person on earth who actually is aware of a lot of the story. I need to say the reality and cease the lies. I additionally need to cease her utilizing Nieng – my adopted daughter – as a part of her marketing campaign to make a comeback.”
The present scenario
Pierre Legros sits again in his chair at a restaurant in Phnom Penh. “To start with, I am not towards Somaly. We had some good years collectively, we’ve got two organic youngsters and an adopted daughter. Sadly, I am not allowed to see my 12-year outdated son, Nicolai. We break up in 2004 once I was dismissed from AFESIP, however did not divorce till 2006. She then went on to arrange The Somaly Mam Basis in the USA in 2007.”
He shrugs his shoulders, “So what if she instructed some lies. Everybody in Asia lies and it’s a part of the social habits.”
“Take her title for instance. I knew her as Viriya or Aya, her mom named her Someny And now she is Somaly Mam. Who cares?”
“I don’t need to destroy her status – as she did some good work and I am happy with her. However individuals additionally have to know that there are allegations from Spain that she took quite a lot of donations that had been supposed for the inspiration and it ended up for her private use.
“The rationale I stress it’s because AFESIP was a gaggle of native NGOs I setup throughout Europe and Asia. AFESIP Spain turned one of the vital environment friendly by way of actions in Madrid – protesting towards trafficking – and throughout Spain, for sensitization-advocacy. Then AFESIP Spain facilitated the fund-raising with basis and the Spanish authorities, particularly the Ministry of Overseas Affairs. They investigated and located some points about whether or not Somaly dedicated monetary fraud.”
“Her wage in 2011 was $125,642, which is a fortune in Cambodia.”
“The For Sale signal on the villa is to persuade those that she is poor. It’s not true. Then they may donate extra money. The issue is that individuals in America consider no matter they’re instructed and so they do not do their fact-checking correctly. That will change now that questions of economic fraud in regards to the former AFESIP Madrid workplace had been raised in Spain.”
The beginnings of the icon
“Sure, Somaly was a prostitute once I met her. Then we fell in love and all of that modified.”
“UNICEF began to donate cash and we arrange a middle to assist women and girls who had been trafficked into the intercourse trade. All of us have to dream. I thought of my future to assist different individuals. It’s what I used to be – and nonetheless am – dedicated to doing.”
“I used to be the director and organizer behind the operation, the particular person within the shadows, actually. I knew the route we wanted to go. So I took dangers and inspired Somaly to develop her freedom and to flee from her from cultural dictates. I do know that in the event you feed a girl what she wants you’ll create a superwoman. And that’s what occurred: she turned an icon. As a result of, actually, she can be very good, extra so than me.”
“Somaly was the face of the operation, the spokesperson, the advertising and marketing machine. It was her character that was at work. She instructed her story – and different accounts of women and girls being trafficked so effectively – that cash began to circulation into AFESIP.”
Legros went on to remark that after she appeared on tv many instances and started to get worldwide recognition he urged that she ought to write a e-book. The e-book was first printed in France in 2005, earlier than she arrange her basis in America in 2007. The Street of Misplaced Innocence turned an prompt best-seller when it was translated into English.
“I didn’t inform her what to put in writing. It was her story, not mine. It’s attention-grabbing, nevertheless, that the French and the English variations don’t bear any resemblance to one another.”
“After the e-book, she was invited all over the place and met everybody who counted. The record of her contacts ranges from Oprah, to Hilary Clinton, to the Queen of Spain and politicians from around the globe. After all I inspired and supported her. She was my spouse and the mom of my youngsters. We had been already separated, however I pushed her to just accept the invitation to open the Particular Olympic video games in 2005.”
Some character dysfunction questions
Beginning life in a small village of Kompong Cham province the place life was, at greatest, subsistence, and ending up as a world movie star shouldn’t be a journey with out its calls for and issues.
Legros and an Amerian psychologist who volunteered at AFESIP theorized that as Mam started to more and more combine and mingle with the wealthy and well-known she moved in direction of growing a narcissistic character dysfunction (NPD). The indications of NPD embody a grandiose sense of self-importance and fixed demand for consideration and admiration. Different traits embody exploitation of others and a complete lack of empathy.
Legros and the psychologist now recommend that Mam reveals the full-blown indicators of NPD. Within the saint-sinner debate he’s the primary particular person to lift the query about borderline character points.
“Somaly shouldn’t be joyful. She is a depressed girl.” Different accounts from employees on the heart confirm that she has mood and might be explosive over small incidents.
“The one instances I’ve come out publicly to problem the lies she instructed is when she stated eight women on the heart had been killed. The second time was when she alleged that our adopted daughter had been gang-raped. In these situations I needed to set the document straight.”
Legros maintains a low profile. “I would like this text printed in outdoors Cambodia, as a result of that’s the place most of Somaly’s supporters are. I feel they should know the reality. Right here in Phnom Penh it could be too harmful. She could be very well-connected and is aware of many high-ranking individuals within the authorities, the police, and the military.”
“Once we break up in 2004, she moved her body-guard into the bed room. He had a gun and a license to kill. I do know I can disappear tomorrow, that is the Kingdom.”
Legros is at present working in Phnom Penh.
He smiles, “Finally I need to retire on a ship and never have an excessive amount of contact with different people. However earlier than I do this, I need to inform the true story of Somaly Mam and the way she turned an icon. I’ve the responsibility to do it with out gray space or lies.”
“For me, Somaly is an imposture. However inside a corrupt system full of comparable individuals, it’s hardly a shock.”